As we think back on the roles played by our fathers, grandfathers, uncles or even single moms, we often become nostalgic and teary when we realize that, so often, we did not appreciate their place in our lives.
I am not saying that every father was the perfect role model. I have had many friends without their biological dad in their lives. Some did not even know where or who their dad was. Nonetheless, they were loved by stepdads who saw them as their own.
I have also had friends whose dads did not return from WW2 and the role was taken up by other family members, often by moms who were grieving their own loss.
We cannot choose our dads, anymore than we can choose the color of our skin, hair or eyes. Things like this are beyond our control – in the hands of genetics and a greater power.
As Sunday approaches, I would like to share with you some words from “momcafe” written in June 2013.
To all the fathers who…
Stepped up, plugged in, held on, forged ahead, committed to, learned how, embraced all, encountered much, battled through, held tight, loved soft, never quit, backed off, let loose, braved courage, faced fears, prayed for, tightened up, loosened reigns, remembered when, helped often, inspired much, led forward, stayed true, taught morals, found strength, said yes, valued life, reasoned well, gave in, made time, had fun, helped out, played fair, took care, provided plenty, let go, stood up, swallowed pride, changed paths, took risks, dug deep, went easy, pushed forward, fought for, carried burdens, kept going, dreamed big, never quit, shed tears, forgave often, found patience, shined light, suffered pain, made dates, had faith, showed respect, wrote notes, held hands, stayed safe, laughed loud, lost sleep, slowed down, tackled chores, tried hard, let win, chose right, opened up, gave grace, got involved, gave your all… I commend you. *For the true integrity of a man is measured by such things*
As I read the last line, I remembered words from my own dad which have shaped my life. He said “Beryl, a man is only as good as his word. Choose yours wisely and make sure they are beyond reproach. Once out of the bottle, they cannot be put back in.”
I hope this Sunday you will take a quiet moment, perhaps light a candle, and find a wonderful memory, or words of wisdom from whoever fathered you.
Happy Father’s Day to all who stepped up!
Pastor Beryl, DLM